When two people get married and begin their lives together, they go on a honeymoon so that they can be away from other people and can concentrate only on each other. They take time off from work, put the rest of their lives on hold for a few days, and go into seclusion.
Your baby, who is also beginning his/her life with you, deserves the same consideration.
Immediately after birth, well-meaning friends and family usually start dropping by to see the new baby. I am going to encourage you to post a message like this on your front door and record it on your telephone answering machine:
"Ted, Lisa, and baby Benjamin are on their babymoon. They appreciate your visit. The new family will be available for phone calls and visits in about two weeks. At that time, they could use the following assistance: frozen, homecooked meals; assistance with light housework; and snack trays filled with fresh fruits, veggies, and high protein foods for breastfeeding fuel."
The babymoon accomplishes four important things. First, it gives the new family a chance to bond. Second, it allows the baby's immature immune system to be boosted through the maternal antibodies in breast milk. It is important that this occur before the baby is exposed to people who might be carrying airborn viruses or other germs not indigenous to your household. Third, it allows the new mom to get the rest she needs so she can get back on her feet. Fourth, it allows the new mom to become accustomed to breastfeeding, diapering, and consoling the baby before she has to demonstrate those skills in front of others.
She will be less self-conscious if she has a couple of weeks experience under her belt.
Make a commitment to yourself that you will not take your nightgown off for two weeks (well, it's Ok to change into a clean one!).
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