Who should decide what position you give birth in?
Who should decide what you can eat and drink during birth?
Who should decide whether or not you have an episiotomy?
Who should decide whether you need a c-section or not?
You Should !
Many times, when women give birth in the hospital, these things are decided for them. Medical science does not trust women to know what is good for them. Do your research ahead of time, know what your birth options are, and exercise your right to take responsibility for your own health. No one should perform any procedures or make any decisions about your care without first asking your permission and explaining other alternatives for care.
Who you choose to have at your birth has a lot to do with your philosophy of birth.
Husbands and partners, let me ask you this....If a man you had never met before walked into your home and told your wife to take off her clothes and then proceeded to probe her body, how would you feel? I suspect you would be uncomfortable, and so would she. In fact, I don't believe you would stand for it as her husband/partner.
Then why do you allow it when she is giving birth? Would you have allowed other people to watch you make love? Then why would you allow them to watch this equally intimate moment - the birth of your child?
If you feel you must have someone attending your birth, such as a doctor or midwife, make sure they are willing to respect the choices you make. If they don't.....
Many women are now learning the art of Autonomous Childbirth. They are reclaiming the right to be in charge of their own birth experiences. A woman who participates in Autonomous Childbirth has a strong belief in her body's ability to give birth normally and safely without medical intervention. Women who prepare themselves to give birth unassisted by a doctor, nurse, midwife, or in some cases even without family and friends, have extremely high rates of normal, healthy birth. And, believe it or not, statistics show that you are safer to give birth outside the hospital than inside.
Birth happens more swiftly, more easily, more safely, when there are no strangers present. People say, "We have to have someone there in case something goes wrong." Then you are trusting in those people to take responsibility for your birth and you are not trusting your body to do what it was designed to do, nor trusting in yourself to make the right decision. This is a more dangerous situation than anything else.
Of course, who you have at your birth is totally up to you. You have the right to make those choices yourself, whether you are giving birth at home, at the hospital, at a birth center, or in a natural setting. You must be comfortable with your own choices. I hope you will take responsibility for your birth. I also hope you will consider autonomous birth as a viable option. As a Certified Childbirth Educator, it is really the only alternative I can wholeheartedly endorse as natural and safe.
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